Well SORRY another word that a child is taught since the time when he starts speaking. SORRY , THANK YOU , PLEASE … All these words are learned by children by heart,but their significance , their relevance , their importance is never being told and hence the stories of misuse of such word starts. SORRY is the one word in dictionary which is most of the time being misused. People do hurt many a times intentionally and try to get away by saying SORRY , It’s like Holy GANGES dip which will free you of your sins, Do something wrong and say sorry. You will be forgiven. It is assumed that you are free of any guilt after saying sorry.
As far as I have observed , there are 4 kinds of scenarios that happens when a reference of SORRY is made and 2 people are involved in each scenario. One who does wrong and another with whom wrong is done . For understanding and easiness let’s give them some name. Let one who does wrong is called Mr. A and with whom wrong is done is Mr. B.
Scenario 1 – Mr A – does wrong by mistake and Mr. B is hurt but he is a nice person In this case ,If Mr A says sorry , Mr. B will be consoled and he will let it go. Mr. B will be happy but even after saying sorry Mr. A will feel guilty when he will remember what he has done and always try not to repeat that mistake and amend the broken.
Scenario 2 – Mr A – does wrong by mistake and Mr. B is hurt but he does not want to forgive and want to take revenge In this case, If Mr A says sorry , try to explain Mr. B his situation , but Mr. B don’t want to forgive. Mr. B will always be restless, he will always be looking for a chance to take revenge ,but by saying SORRY , Mr A will be relaxed, He knew he has done what he could and what has been done is done , it can’t be reverted , so he will be happy to move on.
Scenario 3 – Mr A – does wrong intentionally and Mr. B forgives In this case ,If Mr A says sorry , Mr. B will forgive him, Mr. B will be happy ,but saying sorry won’t help him , as he will always be scared of truth getting revealed to Mr. B.
Scenario 4 – Mr A – does wrong intentionally and Mr. B does not forgives This is worst case scenario, nobody will be happy .
Well I think , Sorry behaves differently in different situations and it should be used properly. SORRY makes sense only when we actually realize our mistakes and try to amend the broken trust , relations and the other side should also try to forgive him and give a chance to prove himself.
Sometimes saying sorry ,even though you have not done anything wrong ,helps. This sorry is capable of bringing in peace in a terrible situations , it can pacify the ego.
Sorry at any point can’t amend what has been broken, be it relationship, trust or anything ,yes it definitely helps in making sure that this will not be repeated. But sometimes people lose their most precious things,relationships,health, lives because of your mistakes and sorry can’t help you in any ways , It won’t bring you inner peace , neither will help the other side in distress. In such situations , you need to give yourself completely for the sake of the other side , this could be the only things that can help you to be in peace with your inner self.An article was posted in TIMES OF INDIA , where in people have felt guilty all their lives , they are in depression because they have done something severely wrong. An Actor during shooting hit his colleague by mistake , and the person who was hurt , could have lost his life. Sorry was not enough and he still feels guilty and was in depression for a long time. The story of Nagasaki and Hiroshima is another such incident , where the person who did this ,was not able to forgive himself for such a loss. Sorry was not enough. There has been many such incidents and cases ,where in Sorry can’t help you and is just not enough , then what else in such cases , how we can fight with our guilt what do we need to do. I really don’t have any answer, but all what I can think of is , picking up the scattered pieces and start a new fresh , help people in distress , do reverse actions , like if you have taken a life , save a life. if you made somebody handicapped in an accident , give your organs. This can just help you in coping up with such situations.
Now with this I am concluding.
PS: I am #SORRY, if I have hurt your feelings.