Recently I saw a movie – Mardaani2 and that movie has led to a series of thoughts in my mind. Generally, movies, biopic, history-based films are not real and made up a little bit.
But still, every such story has a truth, a scary truth in it. And when it comes to cruelty about women, be it in any form of domestic violence, exploitation at work, rape, human trafficking, it is getting worse with every new day.
I remember I was in 6th class, way too back and I watched “Hello Zindagi” hosted by Nalini Singh, It was about a rape case of a three years old girl by the tenant kept by parents so that kids can be taken care of when they were away working.
After that, I have heard thousands of stories, Sunitha Krishnan, Phoolan Devi, Bhawari Devi, Nirbhaya, Unnao Case, and the latest Hyderabad case. The list is never-ending, and these are a few of the reported cases. And if we include human trafficking cases, it will be like infinity. Reality is far worse than it seems.
Why this is happening, how can people do such things to a poor little soul? How sick people are. Why can’t Men think beyond this physical satisfaction and money?
What do you think? I think we all have contributed to this problem, and we are the only solution.
Why we are a problem:-
- Not fighting back
We can’t deny the fact that at least once in her lifetime, every “SHE” is molested, and I am not an exception to it. But instead of fighting back what I did, I changed my route, ran away, cried alone, because I was never being taught to fight back, I was always being asked to keep quiet for so many reasons.
- Fear -Molester, may return and will hurt me more if his ego is hurt.
- You are the weaker sex, and you will not be able to overpower him.
- What will society say?
- Nobody will support you if you are in trouble.
- Avoiding empty dark lanes, returning home on time is a better solution
- Wear appropriate clothes.
2. Negative Trust on Police
We all do not have faith in our Police department. Most of the time, we are sure that they will not support us. There are so many cases wherein, due to the incapability and ignorance of Police, we have lost evidence and Victims. In many cases, Police do not register an FIR, often girls reporting are given character certificates that you must be provoking the guy, why you wear such clothes, etc., in some cases, police officers are rapists. Our Police department is so insensitive and is not trained to handle such situations. Due to all these reasons, rapists and molesters become confident. They know loose ends of the law, and they know they will get away after doing the crime.
Yes. We are brought up in a society that is insensitive towards women, towards life, wherein a woman is treated as sex objects. We are selfish and are not taught to think before we act, to think of the impact of our doings on others. Ours is a patriarchal society where we choose to decline a woman her fundamental rights. I think Jessica Lal Murder case can be cited as one of the examples wherein Men are not taught to accept a NO. Kindness, empathy is a major missing when it comes to Men of Indian society. Often Men or I would rather say Sick men consider Raping a woman as fun, enjoyment; they don’t think beyond that, repercussion of their activity on that woman. Can you believe that Just some girl said NO she is raped or acid is thrown over her face?
How insensitive we are!
4. As parents, we have failed
We should accept that as parents as a society; we have failed. It is the upbringing of a child that shapes the character. Generally, what we see in our family is what we become. It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children to respect women, have empathy, be kind.
Strict laws can reduce cases of crime against women, but can’t stop them. Unless we, as a society, learn to be sensitive towards life, have empathy. We, as a parent need to teach our boys to respect women, be sensitive, be kind. We need to change the setup in our homes, we should think of bringing equality first in our homes. Like, father and mother, both should do household work. Simple things like this will have a significant impact. We need to teach our girls to shout and fight if they are not given their rights and not just sit back and accept.
Let’s pledge to say NO to every cruelty against women.
What’s your say on this?